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Wonder and curiosity chase the future. Reflection and contemplation encompass the past. The present, however, is often lost on us. Living in the moment could change your life for the better, so why do you lose yourself to your thoughts on what’s next or worry about what’s happening elsewhere? Looking to the future can provide hope, especially through difficult times. Reflecting on the past can also provide healing and closure. Focusing on either one obsessively, however, quickly becomes deteriorating to our mental and emotional health.

We all seem to spend too much time thinking about the past and the future, and it’s very difficult not to. It will take true mindfulness to reshape these thought patterns. What most people don’t realize is just how powerful the subconscious mind actually is in forming our judgements and perceptions. This part of the brain stores memories and experiences, and therefore has access to decision-making information faster than the conscious mind. Have you ever made a “gut-decision” but couldn’t quite articulate why you made this choice – it was just your instinct? Your subconscious mind is responsible for this seemingly intuitive kind of response. Your subconscious gathered enough information to be able to guide you into making the right choice.

Despite the influential subconscious mind, we still have the ability to make conscious choices. Whether it be choosing our preferences, answering questions, gathering information or communicating, we process information every day in order to make decisions. Our mind is constantly stimulated by the outside world, supplying all kinds of sensory details including sights, sounds, and a plethora of uncontrollable factors.

Simply put: the mind doesn’t like to be still, it likes to be engaged through this constant absorption of surrounding stimuli. Due to the mind’s nature, it can be a challenge to solely reflect, sit in stillness and just think. If we’re constantly thinking about somewhere we are not, the subconscious mind will focus on this without us even realizing it. In choosing to actively concentrate on the present, we direct both our subconscious and conscious minds back to reality, surrounding people, and present opportunities. However, this often involves an active decision on your part to focus on the present moment.

1. How “savoring” is a fantastic way to begin an active way of thinking

A common issue people face is living in a constant state of worry. We often place a substantial focus on what the future holds, how our lives will change, and all that will go wrong or right. Essentially, we want to comprehend the unknown, and we crave a foreseeable life progression to clarify our questions. Most people struggle with change to a certain extent, and want to feel in control. But truly, there are so many things out of our control, and worrying about them will not make a difference. The present is all that really exists, and the future is actually here, right now. Making the most of each day seems to be a lofty goal, but through an active focus on the present, worries will dissolve away.

One way to combat this mental anxiety is purely to savor the moments it is happening. For example, if you ever find yourself in a gorgeous setting, perhaps a tranquil walk along the beach, or watching a breath-taking sunset, do not think to yourself, “This is so beautiful, I need to come back here with my boyfriend.” Rather, take in this treasure of a sight, content with what you are feeling now, relishing this unique moment in your life. Psychologists call this “savoring”. Yes, you may desire to come back to this point again later, but remember, you are already here right now. It’s no coincidence that we have an easier time savoring moments when we’re traveling alone. It’s easier to be present in the moment without distractions.

So whether it be ruminating about the past, or uneasiness over the future, channeling your mindset to what is directly in front of you will boost positive thoughts, and terminate negative ones about situations that are not even present.

Time is a strange concept to grasp. Sometimes we are fully aware of it’s presence when things are progressing slowly. We press on for time to speed up and move forward. But there are also days or extended periods that seem lost on us, passing by so fast they go by almost undetected. Whether we are experiencing a season of life brimming with stress and busyness, one of uneventful peace, one of great company and laughter, or even one of self-discovery and soul-searching, there are ways to make the most of the time we are experiencing. Removing ourselves out of an “autopilot” mindset, and instead taking an insightful interest in our surroundings can immediately draw us into a stronger mindfulness. Psychology Today explains it like this, “Instead of letting your life go by without living it, you awaken to experience”. Engagement can look differently for everyone. This could mean developing greater awareness and consistent observations about the people and environment we are in. Finding details, asking questions, and living with a bold curiosity will begin to draw us into the present, and away from negative thoughts. The more involved we are in the situations of today, the less we are in the ones of the past or those that do not exist.

3. Practice a “Do Nothing Moment”

So often in our lives we get stuck in ruts, not knowing how we got to this point, what our next move is, or even where to begin to make a change. We get lost in routines, work days blend together, and life can seem to lose it’s zest and vibrancy. It is almost as if we have surrendered to our circumstances, and forget that we can change the direction and course of our life. A remedy for this kind of stagnancy may sound contradictory, but it is actually to “do nothing”. Practicing a “do nothing moment” each day can actually be quite helpful for increasing productivity, motivation, and a peaceful mindset. Whether this be in the morning when we wake, or afternoon to break up the day, setting aside a time to collect our thoughts and motives brings many positive benefits. By removing our minds from the constant commotion of our thoughts and worldly distractions, this can reduce stress, lower blood pressure, and even boost immunity. We touch-base with our emotions and honest desires, which should never be ignored. A greater understanding of ourselves and our deepest wishes will lead to a stronger motivation and awareness to accomplish these goals all the days of our lives.

4. Learn to Let Go

Nelson Mandela powerfully said “when I was walking out of the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew that if I didn’t leave behind my bitterness and hatred, I’d still be in prison”. Living in the moment entirely cannot take place without some relationship to the past. In other words, we must let the past go. Harboring regret, anger, and negative feelings will only weigh us down, and become heavier the longer we carry these burdens. We alter our consciousness when we let these pains into our very core, changing the way we think. Forgiveness and setting free these anxieties is an ability to rise above these challenges, because we will not heal by hurting someone else. An avid practitioner of mindfulness, Buddha himself said, “Resentment is like drinking a cup of poison and expecting the other person to die”. Internal healing comes by letting go of these things that either hold us captive, or set us free. Forgiveness does not excuse the behavior, rather is protects us from the negative affects the action could cause us. So learn to let go, practice forgiveness, and take courage to move past what cannot be changed, giving of all your energy to the present day.


Author: Kelly-Grace Struble


A growing number of people want to bring more spiritual depth into their work and life. Here are seven practical ways:

1. Follow your heart.

Your heart is more than just a muscle that pumps blood. It connects with and informs the brain. What’s more, it connects with your soul. “The heart is … the light of truth,” as Ramana Maharishi said.

Your heart opens you to your inner truth and wisdom. Your heart, in effect, becomes your own personal wayshower, showing you how to live and love more fully. “You gotta have heart…”

2. Be mindful.

Mindfulness is that moment-to-moment awareness, without judging or reacting to what is happening. Mindfulness can come through meditating or can be practiced at any moment, doing anything.

Put differently, Wallace Wattles advised in the classic book The Science of Getting Rich not to hurry or worry. He further said to act from the Creative Plane, a higher realm of unity and potential. By mindfully being in the moment, you use time to go out of time, to intersect the finite with the infinite.

By being here now, you experience “spacious attention.”

3. Attune to nature.

Technology is great but the constant stimulation from media, computers, cell phones and the next wonderful thing can interfere with the natural cycles that balance us, and connect us to the natural world.

To live more richly, be aware of the nature that is all around you. Our biological clock puts us in order, to align with our best self.

Set a break to walk outside, smell the air, watch the sky, both day and night. Take a walk.

Be aware of the sun setting and rising. Connect your sleep cycles with those rhythms too when possible.

We are a part of nature, and it’s wonderful to realize that rather than to just ignore it.

4. Clear obstacles.

Living involves conflicts and stressors. So inner blocks and resistance naturally arise. You can use this discontent, these restrictions as doorways for liberation.

We use holistic EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and Spiritual Kinesiology as fast, deep and elegant ways to clear.

5. Look for the good.

Amid the challenges we face, good things do happen. It’s wise to make a habit of seeking out the good each day.

Right now you can look around at your surroundings for something uplifting. It can be a picture, a tree or flower, a person or something else.

In more troubling situations (a loss, illness, accident) you can condition yourself to find meaning and purpose in the situation. You can connect the challenge to your spiritual journey of growth, resilience and transcendence.

6. Experiment.

In business, success comes from trial and error. So too in life itself.

Stability is important, but too much routine leads to complacency and stagnation. Being on autopilot with your patterns can be deadening.

Try different things. Use your non-dominant, opposite hand to brush your teeth, hair or to shave. Speak to new people, like those at the grocery store line.

Look for that new way of doing things. Opportunities then have a way of presenting themselves more easily.

7. Be a lifelong learner.

People like renowned speaker Jim Rohn or entrepreneur Mark Cuban have attributed their success in part to being “a voracious learner.”

Lifelong learning is essential. The perennial quest for knowledge is fun and exciting too.


These seven transformational habits directly lead to valuing yourself and your life. Every moment is a breath of life.

As you take it in more intentionally, you do transform, more of you shows up and life becomes a beautiful journey.



We make choices all the time.  Simple choices, like what movie we want to see or what do want to eat for lunch don’t change the course of our lives or have any effect on other people.  However, there are many choices that do and those are the ones we struggle with.  Some of these are about job changes, moving to a different city, buying a home, marriage struggles etc. 

Here are nine ways to help you make good choices:

  1. When we struggle making a choice we need to ask ourselves does this make me feel anxious or does the idea of it make me feel good?  Feeling a little anxious when making life changing choices is usual, but, if the thought of making a choice causes you to feel nervous, then you should hold off until you have more clarity as this could be your intuition giving you guidance. 
  2. Focus on the main choice not the small issues surrounding it as this will waste your energy and will confuse you even more.
  3. Choices that affect other people who are close to you need checking out with your conscience with total honesty and integrity as otherwise, not only could you bring a lot of hurt and pain into peoples’ lives but you may later live with regret and that is hard to do. So take your time.
  4. Do not compromise your core values.
  5. All life changing choices should be made with the balance of heart and head.
  6. Look at the situation from every vantage point and listen to your intuition.  Ask yourself what might be the worst possible scenario if it doesn’t work out?  Will you be able to change your mind and direction without too much difficulty?  When you ask yourself these questions you gain important insight which will help guide you.
  7. Reflect on past experiences and learn from the choices you have made.
  8. Ask for advice from people you really trust and know have your best interests at heart.
  9. You need a plan.

There are no guarantees in life but by taking taking risks that have been carefully thought through together with a plan, you can achieve your goals and dreams as you wisely navigate this earthly existence..

Namaste and Blessings on your journey


Real Love is expressed by how a person treats you and not just their words.  Do not be fooled by words alone. Remember that we teach people how to treat us by establishing boundaries and sharing our values. When we meet someone we are attracted to we often project our own values onto them then later when we really get to know them we may feel very disappointed and disillusioned that they are very different from what we expected.  This is because we might be experiencing infatuation, lust or just wishful thinking but not real love.  However, here are some ways to recognize whether a relationship could very well be the real thing.

  1. Completely respecting each other as equals and treating each other in a caring, sharing and loving way.
  2. You are kind to each other. This means being loving, patient, considerate and generous with each other.  You don’t take your frustrations out on them.
  3. You want the best for each other and care about each other’s welfare.
  4. Building trust by keeping your promises to each other.
  5. Being committed and dedicated to always improving the relationship.
  6. Not playing games.
  7. You are faithful and honest and have no secrets from each other.
  8. You want the best and care about each other’s welfare.
  9. Sharing the same deep core values on the way you live your lives.
  10. Being committed to staying when the going gets tough- sticking around during rough times such as physical or mental illness, job loss, etc. However, it does not mean staying when your partner has stopped truly loving you and doesn’t want to fix things.

These are just a few ways to recognize true potential in a relationship.  Real love does not automatically happen.  It is something that we have to work towards, developing trust, communication, respect, compromise and compassion.  Remember COMMUNICATION is vital.

Simple  – Quick  – No equipment needed  – Do it anywhere!

The 4-7-8 breathing technique was developed by Dr. Andrew Weil, Harvard trained and a leading expert on Integrative Medicine.   This is a very simple and useful tool to achieve general relaxation and to manage stress. 


  1. Exhale completely through your mouth making a WHOOSH sound
  2. Place the tip of your tongue against the ridge of tissue on the roof of your mouth, just behind your front teeth and keep it there throughout the whole exercise.
  3. Close your mouth and inhale quietly through your nose to the count of 4.
  4. Hold your breath for a count of 7.
  5. Exhale completely through your mouth making a WHOOSH sound to a count of 8.

The time you spend on each phase is not important but the ratio 4 – 7 – 8 is.  If you have trouble holding your breath, you can speed it up but keep the ratio 4 – 7 – 8.   With practice you can slow it down and get used to breathing more deeply.

Do it at least twice a day.  Do not do more than four cycles at one time for the first month of practice.   Later, if you wish, you can extend it, but no more than eight breaths.   If you feel lightheaded, stop – it will pass and cut down the number of times you do it.

This exercise is a natural tranquilizer for the nervous system.  Unlike tranquilizing drugs, which are often effective at first but over time lose power, this exercise is subtle when you first try it,  but gains in power with repetition and practice.  Use it whenever anything upsets you or when you are aware of internal tension or you feel a sense of panic.

I have found this very useful with the stresses in my life and I thank Dr. Krisstina Gowin, an Integrative Medicine Doctor as well as a Hematologist/Oncologist who shared this with me.

Hope this helps you to R E L A X.