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We make choices all the time.  Simple choices, like what movie we want to see or what do want to eat for lunch don’t change the course of our lives or have any effect on other people.  However, there are many choices that do and those are the ones we struggle with.  Some of these are about job changes, moving to a different city, buying a home, marriage struggles etc. 

Here are nine ways to help you make good choices:

  1. When we struggle making a choice we need to ask ourselves does this make me feel anxious or does the idea of it make me feel good?  Feeling a little anxious when making life changing choices is usual, but, if the thought of making a choice causes you to feel nervous, then you should hold off until you have more clarity as this could be your intuition giving you guidance. 
  2. Focus on the main choice not the small issues surrounding it as this will waste your energy and will confuse you even more.
  3. Choices that affect other people who are close to you need checking out with your conscience with total honesty and integrity as otherwise, not only could you bring a lot of hurt and pain into peoples’ lives but you may later live with regret and that is hard to do. So take your time.
  4. Do not compromise your core values.
  5. All life changing choices should be made with the balance of heart and head.
  6. Look at the situation from every vantage point and listen to your intuition.  Ask yourself what might be the worst possible scenario if it doesn’t work out?  Will you be able to change your mind and direction without too much difficulty?  When you ask yourself these questions you gain important insight which will help guide you.
  7. Reflect on past experiences and learn from the choices you have made.
  8. Ask for advice from people you really trust and know have your best interests at heart.
  9. You need a plan.

There are no guarantees in life but by taking taking risks that have been carefully thought through together with a plan, you can achieve your goals and dreams as you wisely navigate this earthly existence..

Namaste and Blessings on your journey

 

Real Love is expressed by how a person treats you and not just their words.  Do not be fooled by words alone. Remember that we teach people how to treat us by establishing boundaries and sharing our values. When we meet someone we are attracted to we often project our own values onto them then later when we really get to know them we may feel very disappointed and disillusioned that they are very different from what we expected.  This is because we might be experiencing infatuation, lust or just wishful thinking but not real love.  However, here are some ways to recognize whether a relationship could very well be the real thing.

  1. Completely respecting each other as equals and treating each other in a caring, sharing and loving way.
  2. You are kind to each other. This means being loving, patient, considerate and generous with each other.  You don’t take your frustrations out on them.
  3. You want the best for each other and care about each other’s welfare.
  4. Building trust by keeping your promises to each other.
  5. Being committed and dedicated to always improving the relationship.
  6. Not playing games.
  7. You are faithful and honest and have no secrets from each other.
  8. You want the best and care about each other’s welfare.
  9. Sharing the same deep core values on the way you live your lives.
  10. Being committed to staying when the going gets tough- sticking around during rough times such as physical or mental illness, job loss, etc. However, it does not mean staying when your partner has stopped truly loving you and doesn’t want to fix things.

These are just a few ways to recognize true potential in a relationship.  Real love does not automatically happen.  It is something that we have to work towards, developing trust, communication, respect, compromise and compassion.  Remember COMMUNICATION is vital.

Simple  – Quick  – No equipment needed  – Do it anywhere!

The 4-7-8 breathing technique was developed by Dr. Andrew Weil, Harvard trained and a leading expert on Integrative Medicine.   This is a very simple and useful tool to achieve general relaxation and to manage stress. 

STEPS:       

  1. Exhale completely through your mouth making a WHOOSH sound
  2. Place the tip of your tongue against the ridge of tissue on the roof of your mouth, just behind your front teeth and keep it there throughout the whole exercise.
  3. Close your mouth and inhale quietly through your nose to the count of 4.
  4. Hold your breath for a count of 7.
  5. Exhale completely through your mouth making a WHOOSH sound to a count of 8.

The time you spend on each phase is not important but the ratio 4 – 7 – 8 is.  If you have trouble holding your breath, you can speed it up but keep the ratio 4 – 7 – 8.   With practice you can slow it down and get used to breathing more deeply.

Do it at least twice a day.  Do not do more than four cycles at one time for the first month of practice.   Later, if you wish, you can extend it, but no more than eight breaths.   If you feel lightheaded, stop – it will pass and cut down the number of times you do it.

This exercise is a natural tranquilizer for the nervous system.  Unlike tranquilizing drugs, which are often effective at first but over time lose power, this exercise is subtle when you first try it,  but gains in power with repetition and practice.  Use it whenever anything upsets you or when you are aware of internal tension or you feel a sense of panic.

I have found this very useful with the stresses in my life and I thank Dr. Krisstina Gowin, an Integrative Medicine Doctor as well as a Hematologist/Oncologist who shared this with me.

Hope this helps you to R E L A X.